It's been said many times over not to expect much from the game in this state, that goes for the logging in part of it too. A couple of people I know (including me) had the extended waiting time when trying to get in the game.
Maybe you have an issue with steam but like Des said there are millions that do use the program and have no issues.
Basically what I'm trying to say is don't make any hasty decisions based on your hatred for a program, take some time to chill out, kick back and try again in a couple of days time?
Just seems like you'll be missing out on something really good here if you throw in the towel already you know?