1, We are not obliged to make it fun for you, you really haven't made it fun for us.
2, Right up until you broke off diplomatic relations, you where told that it would be a no holds barred affair, including port timers, You chose to ignore it.
3, You say your player base will suffer, but you led your player base into this, again, knowing what it would entail.
4, Instead of making friends with at least one of the factions on either side of you (see Sweden ), you choose to attack both. Not exactly tactically astute.
5, The difference is, our allies didn't hang us out to dry. Both the Dutch and the USA players have been exemplary in their support and know we will stand shoulder to shoulder with them. Can you say the same of your allies ?. I'm going to go out on a limb and say no, no you can't.
6, Pick new friends, or even old enemies, who may be more reliable.